Elisabeth Stitt writes about connection, consistency, communication, and empathy as key parenting concepts for parents of kids of all ages.
There is no doubt that kids in restaurants can be a complete nightmare. You might remember your pre-child days when you were disturbed by the noise and chaos of a nearby tot in a restaurant, and you vowed to leave your children home with the sitter and not inflict them on unsuspecting patrons. And quite frankly, if your child is bringing a higher level of noise and chaos than the restaurant currently has, you are asking more of your fellow diners than you should. After all, some of the people sitting there did hire a sitter so they could dine in peace. On the other hand, I see no reason in the world why well-behaved children should not be welcome in almost any restaurant. I am quoted in Julie Hammond's article on The Secrets to Dining Out with Kids HERE.
What I love about parenting blogs is that there is something for everyone. No matter what your family situation, no matter what your parenting philosophy, somewhere in this wide world is another parent who is going through something much the same and is happy to write about it. My own blog is a lot about guiding parents to be as effective as possible. That's the teacher in me. I just can't help giving people concrete tools to be successful. But it is also about finding the joy of parenting along the way. Julia Hammond writes the parenting blog for mydeal.com.au, and this week she has collected 10 of her favorite parenting blogs. I am proud to be one of them! Check out her recommendations HERE.
Have you heard the cry of,
OMG, YOU ARE SO EMBARRASSING!
Has your young teen shifted from skipping down the street holding your hand to acting as if you have the plague? Such behavior is so teen-movie, situational-sitcom cliché we almost don't fully expect it to happen to us. But if your child is developing normally and as he needs to do, he will have that moment when he acts as if you are an alien creature he has never seen before.
Your frontal cortex is fully formed: You have the big picture and long-term perspective. That makes it your job to keep calm and parent on. Repeating the mantra, This is a stage, it will pass, and it has nothing to do with me personally, it will help.
Here is more great advice on making sure your teen gets enough sleep. Good sleep is linked to so many critical factors--like mood, cognitive function, physical health. Helping teens make the connection with things like I'm so happy today! and I got a good night's sleep can really help convince teens to improve their habits. Articles like this one can often serve better than another lecture from Mom or Dad to give kids food for thought on steps they can take to become good sleepers. In this article, written by Ally Feiam, I particularly like the reminder that exercise helps us sleep well and the idea that studying on your bed can teach your brain to associate your bed (your resting place) with something stressful like your studies. Get the article HERE.
The more I read and hear about the current research on the effects of screen time on our children's eyes, brains and bodies, the more I am convinced of the need for setting up really firm guidelines for daily electronics use. Gaming companies and social media apps are getting every more sophisticated at hooking our kids in. As adults with fully formed brains, it is hard for us to appreciate how easily out kids are adversely affected. Click HERE for an article by Julie Hammond that I contributed with ideas for how to get your kids' attention way from their iPads and gameboys.
Tyler Jacobson, today's guest blogger who writes about the struggle to find the balance between protecting our kids without falling into helicopter parenting, is a proud father, husband, writer and outreach specialist with experience helping parents and organizations that help troubled teen boys. Tyler has focused on helping through honest advice and humor on modern day parenting, struggles in school, the impact of social media, addiction, mental disorders, and issues facing teenagers now. Follow Tyler on Twitter | Linkedin
There is no doubt that on the whole people today are more stressed than they need to be. That means anything we can do to learn to handle stress--and to teach our children to handle it--is beneficial. I don't know about you, but I get bored pretty easily. I like having meaningful work to do. I even like having a steep learning curve. The trick is knowing how to balance that extra stimulation with sleep, exercise, play and time for reflection. When the challenges are overwhelming or we feel helpless is when it becomes Stress with a capital S. Julie Hammond has gathered some expert advice (including my own) on how to identify the kind of stress that is not healthy. Read about it HERE.
“I adore my husband, but I hate parenting with him. I feel like I can handle the kids alone, but he comes in and mixes it all up." Seriously, when parents contact me, conflict with one's spouse about how he or she parents is always some part of what is keeping their household from being as fully calm and harmonious as they want it to be. That means that one of my biggest roles as a parenting coach is to help parents get on the same page. Here are the 4 steps I teach to becoming a united parenting team.
A client called frustrated because she had offered her 7th grader a bribe to do something she really wanted him to do that he was digging his heels in on, and now he was demanding that she give him something every time she asked him to do anything at all. That's a problem!
Isn’t that the truth! Parenting gets so exponentially harder when we are in a hurry or are tired. That’s why I’m such a big believer in creating systems and routines for as much of the day as we can. When we have good systems and routines to fall back on, we can let habit lead us.